Genuine Friends vs. Aquaintances?
Never confuse genuine friendships vs. Aquaintances🙏
“Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.”
1 Corinthians 15:33
“Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.”
“Walk with the wise and become wise,
for a companion of fools suffers harm.”
Reason most of us get hurt in life when it comes to friendships is because we hold certain expectations on people that we believe are our friends. We expect others to be as loyal as us, as genuine, as loving, as thoughtful, caring and real. We even do this with close family! Sadly, not everyone is meant to be our friend. Yes! Not even certain family members have our best interest at heart. For this reason, the only one who should be placed in a pedestal is Jesus our best friend. His love never fails!
Some do not have our best interest at heart.It is more about them than you so being discerning is not wrong. You know this clearly when God gives you confirmations and shows you peoples true motives! For example, some people never ask how your doing in years but then you decide to disconnect with them and they are upset! Or say, you have tons of friends on social media and you may not speak in years but you just know they hold your best interest and it is mutual too.
On the other hand, there are certain individuals who have shown over & over they are not genuine and they get upset because you delete them from social media per say.But it is more about them than you! Do not be deceived! if they never reach out and check in once in a while they fall into an acquaintance category and that is ok too but keep in mind sometimes Certain acquaintances can be genuine and harmless while others can become enemies too.Some can care less how your doing in life or If they do ask?
Some want to know for the wrong reasons. To judge or condemn you, criticize or be haters.Truth is, not everyone decerves to be in our circle only those who have earned our trust. We tend to show our deepest vulnerabilities to the wrong people who do not have our best interest at heart nor are they spiritually mature enough to handle our hearts correctly. We must guard our hearts, thoughts and tongues. We cannot say everything in our minds. This has been many of our downfalls in the past and even today.I am so open but not everyone will have good intentions. Therefore, be Wise, prayerful and discerning! Even Jesus was betrayed with a Kiss!
Never fall in the trap of people that say if you are Christian you are supposed to stay connected to everybody. This is so untrue. Sometimes God will tell us to let go of people and it will hurt and be hard but the truth is some people do not help us spiritually. There are many fake folks out there let’s be real and some will become hindrances rather than lead you closer to God they become stumbling blocks to us spiritually.
We can love people but we should never love blindly. We can hold no resentment even pray for them but we don’t need to ignore the red flags 🚩 Let go and let God! Some just don’t do well with our Spirit. Not every single Person especially if they are Christian will be a divine appointment or our assignment. Sometimes Satan will use Christian folks weaknesses to cause us to stumble too.
Sadly, Christians struggle too and not every Christian is genuine.As Christians, we are called to love everyone but loving someone does not equal to you being someone’s doormat or allowing others to disrespect us or remain connected with certain people knowing they really do not respect us as an individual.
Sometimes people just want to know our business because they want to gossip. Just being real! God will give you clear scenarios that take place and even confirmations that someone don’t genuinely care! Do not ignore the signs. Even when you are criticized do not ignore the signs. Sometimes people will doubt your discernment but God will personally give you confirmations that tell us not to trust certain people or let them in.
Not everyone will protect our heart, our best interests and cover us in prayer taking us from Glory to Glory speaking life into us! So becareful who you open up to and who you trust with your deepest issues or vulnerabilities. Some people’s ego is bigger than their love for souls. Pride is before the fall! Be humble! Wise as serpents and harmless as doves! ♥️🙏♥️
Dear Father, thank you for all the people you have placed in our lives who are clearly send by you! For all those Divine appointments and lasting friendships we have been blessed with but most of all for your son Jesus Christ who is our Savior and greatest best friend of all. Who gave up His life to save ours.
Help us to be wise in who we share our most intimate vulnerabilities and trust. Help us be wise as serpents and harmless as doves. Please protect us from those who are not genuine and give us discernment in choosing our friends & let in our circle! In fact, you choose them and give us clear confirmations! Help us to love more, forgive more but be discerning in the process.I pray for our enemies too and their salvation! In Jesus name we pray Amen!